HOW DO I LOVE PEOPLE?
1. JUST LIKE ME, THIS PERSON IS IN NEED OF HAPPINESS
The principle of love expects us to first of all put ourselves in the place of another. We must first of all assume that people everywhere have some fundamental basic needs and desires that are universal. One of these universal needs is to acknowledge for ourselves that everyone, no matter their race, nation, age or sex, is just like us. Every man or woman everywhere has feelings and if they have feelings, they feel what I feel. Everybody everywhere has emotions. They experience what I experience. Meaning I can understand my fellow man, because I can feel what he feels.
“…love people when they least expect it and least deserve it. That is the kind of love Jesus shows to us.” ― Mark Batterson
One of the fundamental needs and desires in the heart of all my fellow men is the desire and the need to be happy. It is natural that men desire and crave happiness even when they don’t realize it. People are always looking for happiness.
Dear friends, when you next see somebody, put yourself in their place and assume in your mind, that the person you are seeing, needs happiness and wants happiness, just like you. We all appreciate it when somebody comes to us and makes us really happy. On the one hand, we are all excited about the fact that we are giving joy and happiness, but on the other hand, someone else around you is waiting that you or others would also give them happiness.
“Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own. – Robert A. Heinlein,
Selfishness however makes men only want to think about themselves. They refuse to remember that just like they desire happiness, so does every one of their neighbors. Just like me, this person I am standing with right now, wants to be happy. Onсe that understanding is reached, you must add to your understanding action. If it is true that this person in front of me wants to be happy just like me, then I must ask myself the question, how can I make his dream and aspiration for happiness come true?
So each time you meet people, don’t just recognize that they want to be happy like you, but more importantly ask what you can do to facilitate the joy and happiness of these people. If you don’t have the money to facilitate what these people need, you still have something to add to their joy.
“The greatest happiness of life is the conviction that we are loved; loved for ourselves, or rather, loved in spite of ourselves.” — Victor Hugo
But the key factor here is to recognize the fact that you are focusing not on yourself but on meeting the needs of the other. Your focus is the happiness that the other man is craving for. Do something about it. Contribute, maybe through your smile, touch or embrace. Contribute something, just to make sure the man gets some happiness, just like you desire to have.
The paradox of life is that what you do to others, God promises to do to you, so your act of kindness is never lost. It becomes a seed that comes back to you in the form of a harvest.
“And remember, as it was written, to love another person is to see the face of God.” — Les Miserables
To be continued tomorrow with the Following points:
- The second Practical step to loving and understanding people
- The kind of love that can cure the world
FOR THE LOVE OF GOD, CHURCH AND NATION
By Pastor Sunday Adelaja