THE STEVE JOBS APPROACH TO LIFE, PAIN AND DEATH
This instinctive drive to run away from pain is one of the greatest reasons for broken relationships among people. We break relationships that we regard as painful in most cases. Marriages break down simply because people cannot bear the pains any longer. Friends cut relationship among themselves, when they see that pain is involved.
“There is a great deal of pain in life and perhaps the only pain that can be avoided is the pain that comes from trying to avoid pain.” ― R. D. Laing
So, to a large extent, either we like it or not, pain affects all of us, not just physically. Pain affects us psychologically and even socially. We feel the consequences of pain in all spheres of life; Politics, economy, family and even sports.
Pain can either make or break you. Yes, yes, pain can make you. Pain makes you, when you bring out something positive by standing on its shoulders. The example of how Steve Jobs dealt with his pain is a wonderful illustration of how pain can make people. Even though Steve Jobs was battling cancer, in his own words, the pain and reality of death made him to work harder than he had ever worked before.
“There is no coming to consciousness without pain.” ― Carl Jung
He actually alluded to the fact that pain and death could be one of the greatest inventions and motivations of men to do more, perform more, produce more.
“Behind every beautiful thing, there’s some kind of pain.” ― Bob Dylan
In Steve Jobs own words “When I was 17, I read a quote that went something like: “If you live each day as if it was your last, someday you’ll most certainly be right.” It made an impression on me, and since then, for the past 33 years, I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: “If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?” And whenever the answer has been “No” for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something.
Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important tool I’ve ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything — all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure — these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.
About a year ago I was diagnosed with cancer. I had a scan at 7:30 in the morning, and it clearly showed a tumor on my pancreas. I didn’t even know what a pancreas was. The doctors told me this was almost certainly a type of cancer that is incurable, and that I should expect to live no longer than three to six months. My doctor advised me to go home and get my affairs in order, which is doctor’s code for prepare to die. It means to try to tell your kids everything you thought you’d have the next 10 years to tell them in just a few months. It means to make sure everything is buttoned up so that it will be as easy as possible for your family. It means to say your goodbyes…
TO BE CONTINUED TOMORROW…
FOR THE LOVE OF GOD, CHURCH AND NATION
By Pastor Sunday Adelaja