Dear Friends, there is more to life than just getting married, having kids and building your family. As beautiful as getting married is, it’s not for everybody or something you jump into without due preparation and purpose discovery. That is if you want to be successful in life and live a foot print on planet earth. But if your vision is just to live the ordinary mediocre life then you can continue towards getting married without discovering your purpose. In that case, this article is not for you.
The number one thing any man/woman should think of is fulfilling the purpose for which God sent you to earth. There is no one alive today that was born without a purpose. Before you were born, while you were still in your mother’s womb, God gave you a purpose to fulfill on the earth. Before anyone knew your sex, if you were a male/female God had a plan for you. A task He wanted you to fulfill on the earth. He gave you everything you will need to fulfill that purpose and life assignment.
Sadly, most people don’t get to discover what they were created for because of the frivolities of life. Parents have failed in directing their children right in this area and the society is not helping matters. They tell you to go to school, get a good education that will make you marketable, get a job, get married and have your kids. If this was what life was all about, then life must be boring indeed. Life though, is far more than this.
It is a thing of amazement to me, how much emphasis is placed on getting married today, why very few actually talk about fulfilling purpose. The parents, family and society put so much pressure on young people to get married. Marriage today to some people has become like an achievement. Even though they are living far below the purpose of God for their lives, no one seems to care as long as you are married and having kids. Little wonder why young ladies are running from pillar to post just to get married without even knowing who they are as a person.
You will never get fulfillment in life without discovering who you are. Fulfillment in life only comes from living a life of purpose. A purposeless life is a meaningless life. Not even marriage can fill that vacuum. If you don’t know who you are, how can you possibly help another person to live their life to the full when you are empty? You can never give what you don’t have. Neither will marriage change your emptiness to fullness.
Instead of running around, wasting your life/time on anything on pants and skirts just because you want to get married, spend those times in the pursuit of your purpose. In the process of fulfilling your purpose you will find your Mr. /Mrs. Right. Don’t let anyone push you around. Don’t live under the pressure of meeting up with the present day status quo to be accepted. Instead, pursue first the things that are of paramount importance. Plan your own life. Create your own standard.
The fact is no great names we know and celebrate today are being celebrated because they got married and had kids. Take a short journey into history with me and you will discover that all the great names we learn about, celebrate and honor today did not get that because of the beautiful family they had. The only thing that lives after a person that inscribes their name in the sand of time is the fulfillment of purpose which results to great deeds. Let’s take a good look at some of these famous names to bring the point home: Jesus Christ, Apostle Paul, Mother Theresa, Albert Einstein, Martin Luther King Junior, Abraham Lincoln, George Washington Carver, Martin Luther the German reformer etc.
Which of the above names are remembered today because of their marriage or the number of children they had? Stop chasing shadows my friends and fulfill purpose! Am I in anyway against marriage? Not at all, I am happily married myself. What I am say is, before you get married, before you say I do, make sure you discover your purpose which is the very reason God created you in the first place. Even after marriage don’t stop pursuing your purpose. Those who make history in life are those who lived to fulfill purpose. SELAH!!!
Dr. Bien Sufficient is a Medical Doctor, Pastor, Writer and a Public Speaker.President @Kingdom Lifestyle Movement.