The Single Life Is More Important Than Marriage – (Part One)

This topic is very important one and dear to my heart. It is a topic we should take seriously. I mean the single life. It is quite unfortunate that we don’t get to talk about this topic in details so often. Today, so many people go through life without really knowing what it means to be single. Even though they answer the name singles or say, “I am single”, they don’t really know what it means to be single. The fact that you are not married does not necessarily mean you are single. You are simply unmarried if you ask me. Why did I say so? You might agree with me that nowadays, young people hardly stay by themselves without being in one relationship or the other. They see living without being in a relationship as something negative, boring or bad. But the reverse is actually the case.

You mean the single life is more important than the married life? Oh yes! The single life is much more important than the married life because the married life is dependent upon the single life. The quality of your marriage is directly proportional to the quality of your single life. You bring into your marriage who you were as a single. Marriage does not change anyone. If you are not happy as a single person, marriage will not give you that happiness.

If there is any phase of life we have to spend time building ourselves up, and developing our capacity as humans, it’s the single life. But this is not the case today. Majority of the masses go through life without really being single. Beginning from their early teens, they begin to date, moving from one relationship to the other until they finally get married. Young people don’t know how to live by themselves. They find it difficult to be alone.

Being single does not seem attractive in our society anymore. You just have to be in one relationship or the other to feel important. You just have to be “hooked up” to be happy. “Singles” even go to the extent of begging their friends to hook them up just because they don’t want to be single. Being single now is like a bad news to so many people. We fail to recognize the great value and importance of this phase of our lives. The single phase of life is the time you have little or less distractions. You have all the time to yourself for personal development, self-building and capacity development.

Many people go into marriage without really passing through this phase of life, and then when they marry, they end up with challenges and difficulties in their marriages. The way people talk about marriage these days is amazing. People treat marriage as an achievement, thus everyone wants a quick marriage, avoiding or running away from the single phase of life as if it were a curse.

The single life is a blessing from God. Those who maximize their single life, have a greater chance of maximizing their marriage. Don’t run into marriage thinking marriage is the solution to the challenges you have as a single. The challenges you do not overcome as a single will multiply in your marriage. Build yourself up; enlarge your capacity; develop yourself and maximize your single life before marriage and you will be happy you did. If you ask me, I think it is actually a minus to go into marriage without discovering yourself and knowing what your purpose is in life. Oh yes! I did enjoy my single life!!!

Dear friends, let’s enjoy and maximize our single life before we move over to marriage.

By Dr. Bien Sufficient

Dr. Bien Sufficient is a Medical Doctor, Pastor, Writer and a Public Speaker.
President @Kingdom Lifestyle Movement.