SIGNS OF PASTORAL AND RELIGIOUS ABUSE
An abusive leader will do all it takes to make you think that he is superior to you. He will not make you think for a minute that you share the same heritage in Christ. Recently, I listened to a viral video of a foremost general overseer in Nigeria. This man is regarded as the number one pastor in Nigeria today. In that video he was saying emphatically to the members, ‘God loves me more than you’. He did not mean it as a joke; rather he was grinding it into the ears and minds of his members that God loves him specially and he loves the people less. These are the words of an abuser and a manipulator. These are the words of a man trying to build a cult around himself.
Listen, God loves all of us equally. There is no man that God loves more, and there is no man that God loves less. The shepherd who is able to keep ninety-nine sheep securely to go in search of the one missing sheep loves all the hundred sheep equally. It does not matter who you are, where you are born, what your pedigree is; you have the same love of the father anybody else. Whoever tries to convince you otherwise is only trying to bully you and manipulate you.
Once you allow anyone to convince you that God loves him more than you, that he is special in the eyes of God than you, that he is more anointed than you, then you have set the stage for abuse. Such a man will likely abuse you. You have made yourself a slave to that individual. Once you are in Christ, you are as anointed as anybody else, including your general overseer. Christ is the anointed one, and he resides in you without measure. You only need to grow in your fellowship and relationship with the anointed one who is in you. There is nothing that the so-called anointing of others will do for you. Stop running after men because of their anointing. You are allowing yourself to be abused.
Many Christians in Africa believe that God answers the prayers of their pastors more than he answers their own prayers. They have been made to think so. They have been conditioned to think so. Many years of brainwashing have damaged these dear people. The pastors have lied to them over time that they have a rank in God, which the members do not have. This is damage and spiritual abuse.
When I began to do my social-media broadcasts, a lot of people who came on the show only came so that I could pray for them. When I go through the comments that people have written on my broadcasts, a lot of people have written long prayer requests and asked me to pray for them. I was very disturbed by this. I did not understand what was going on initially. It was later that someone made me understand that this was the norm in Africa. Everyone runs to their pastors for special prayers. I was told that the pastor’s office is always filled with long queues of people waiting to be prayed for. What a mistake that people are making. What an abuse. This is not the kingdom of God that people are operating.
Pastors should set people free. Pastors should let people know that the best prayers are the prayers that they can pray for themselves. Pastors should teach people how to pray for themselves. Pastors should encourage people to grow in their personal relationship with God, and not try to serve as an intermediary between people and God. This is not the Christianity that the apostles practiced. This is not the kingdom that Christ brought.
The kingdom of Christ is the kingdom of kings. Christ is the king of kings because all his children are kings. You are a king. It is an insult for a king to be running after other kings for blessings. It is wrong. There is nothing that any man has that you do not potentially have too. It is right inside you. Stop seeking men for prayers, blessings and rituals. That is not Christianity. You are being abused in that manner. You are allowing yourself to be abused.
Pastors brainwash people into making others think that they are special by wearing special garments, sitting in special chairs, creating special titles for themselves etc. All these have nothing to do with the mind of Christ.
“Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus: Who, being in the form of God, thought it not robbery to be equal with God. But made himself of no reputation, and took upon him the form of a servant, and was made in the likeness of men. And being found in fashion as a man, he humbled himself and became obedient unto death, even the death of the cross” Philippians 2:5-8
Look at the above scriptures and look at the attitude of your leader. Does it have any correlation? If there is no correlation, then your leader is not acting like Christ, he is an abuser.
To be continued Tomorrow, don’t miss it.
Excerpts from the Book “Damaged By religion, Path To Healing”. #DSABOOKS
FOR THE LOVE OF GOD, CHURCH AND NATION
By Pastor Sunday Adelaja.