Sunday Adelaja's Blog TIPS TO SELF-FULFILLMENT IN LIFE (PART 4)

YOU CAN’T CHANGE ANYTHING YOU’RE WILLING TO TOLERATE.

“Be who God meant you to be and you will set the world on fire.” ― Catherine of Siena

2. DON’T COMPARE YOURSELF TO OTHERS.

Too many people stop by the way side on the path to achievements because they compare themselves to people worse than them. Many of us try to feel good about ourselves by looking at those who are worse than us. While it would be a temporary solace, it is never a good solution. We should really only compare ourselves with our calling, mission and potentials. We don’t compare ourselves with what we have already done. We don’t compare ourselves with what others have done. Our goal should be to compare ourselves with the potentials God has put in us. Our race is against the mandate of God upon our lives. We look for God’s expectations of us and strive to fulfill it.

“Within you, you will find everything you need to be complete.” ― Bryant McGill.

If you look around enough, you will always find people who are doing worse than you. It helps you to feel like a local hero of course, but that kind of practice doesn’t help you to become all God wants you to be. So, this is a golden rule for those who want to come to fulfill themselves. Don’t compare yourself to others. Yes there are cases when comparing yourself with those better than you would inspire you and encourage you to do better. As nice and as cool as that sounds, what happens when you don’t have such individuals around to emulate? Even though it is a nice idea to have a model before you, whose height you aspire to, yet the greatest motivation should be what is coming from within you. Your calling, your purpose, your potential and your abilities.

“Strive to become the best version of your original self. That’s where your true fulfillment in life lies.” ― Edmond Mbiaka

3. YOU CAN’T CHANGE ANYTHING YOU ARE WILLING TO TOLERATE.

If you want to truly come to self-fulfillment, be careful of those things you tolerate. If you tolerate friends who while away your time, you might never be able to easily get rid of them. If you tolerate TV and TV programs, that would become a menace that you will not be able to surmount. If you tolerate empty talk and chats on telephone, you will discover that it is becoming more and more difficult for you to overcome. If you tolerate laziness, you will find it more difficult to break out of it. If you tolerate substandard quality, you would not be able to break out of that circle. If you tolerate that others decide your future and your destiny, you will find it almost impossible to be able to make your own decisions. If you tolerate drinking and smoking, you become addicted to that. If you tolerate day dreaming and empty fantasies, those things will stand in your way of self-fulfillment.

What we tolerate, we empower. Tolerating means giving up some of your power. Tolerating means giving up your resistance. Tolerating is refusing to resist. Tolerating is an unwillingness to fight. That is why it becomes incredibly difficult to change those things we tolerate. Because you have given them permission to exact a limited authority over you. That limited authority however could easily become a full-fledged dominion over you, if you tolerate it long enough. In that case, what we tolerate does not only become extremely difficult to change, but worse still what we tolerate often has dominion over us.

“You are the only real obstacle in your path to a fulfilling life.” -Les Brown

For example, a person that gives himself to smoking once in a while, would soon discover that he has come under its power, resulting in addiction. A person who allows himself the pleasure of sometimes watching pornography, would soon discover that he practically cannot stop it any longer. That is total dominion because of a little permission given.

So ladies and gentlemen, if you wish to be fulfilled in life, there are some things you don’t want to tolerate or permit. Those things you permit will either stop your fulfillment or enhance your fulfillment. So be careful of those things you permit in your life.

Part 5 Comes Tomorrow. Don’t Miss It!