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from: 05 . 02 . 16

In one of my Ask Pastor Sunday sessions, I was asked about the question of masturbation. My initial understanding was that I must give people some relief from the feelings of guilt after the practice of masturbation. So I tried to comfort young people who don’t wish to practice actively the act of masturbation, but yet find themselves having wet dreams.

Wet dreams is an erotic dream that causes involuntary ejaculation of semen. This act that happens to almost all men, tells us about the nature of men. It is a proof that the act of releasing semen is natural. It also explains why men are more sexually driven than the women.

When you understand wet dreams it is also easy to understand why masturbation is so popular with men. The way the man is wired is that his semen gathers with time in his sperm bag either he likes it or not they need to be released or used up one way or the other. That is why not all release of semen should be considered as sinful, especially in the case of wet dreams. In my question and answer sessions I was trying to comfort young men that find themselves in a similar situation not to live in the resultant process of blame or self-condemnation that follows the involuntary ejaculation of semen.

Nevertheless, why do most Christians see masturbation as a sinful act? This was yet another question that followed the previous one in another of my question and answer sessions.  I was directly challenged to answer if masturbation is a sin or not. My explanation was that when most people masturbate they have to imagine an image or a partner in their mind, which equals to what Jesus called adultery in book of Matthew.

“You have heard that it was said to those of old, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” Matt 5:27-28

When a man lusts in his heart after a woman, he has already committed adultery with her even though he has not physically slept with her. That mental adultery goes along side with masturbation.

The reason why I have decided to write this more elaborate article about why masturbation is wrong is that some people who are not Christians and don’t believe the authority of the Bible asked the question that apart from the Bible saying Masturbation is a sin, is there any other thing that proves that the act itself is wrong?

My aim therefore today is to give reasons why I believe that masturbation is still wrong even if we are not considering what Jesus said about adultery in the heart. I want to point out to all my readers that there are enough reasons to believe that Masturbation is wrong even without considering the fact that it is sinful.


1. Loss of interest in marriage:

Most men that actively practice the act of masturbation will in time lose taste for the institution of marriage.

2. Loss of life focus:

The men that actively masturbate tend to think about it most of the time. It is as bad as according to some psychologist, there are men who think about masturbating every 5 minutes making them to lose focus on the most important things in life. A man’s thoughts are supposed to be predominantly about his life’s goals, missions and purposes.

3. Feelings of inferiority complex:

In most cases when men practice masturbation on regular basis, they develop feelings of inferiority complex. They tend to think that they are not normal and in some cases they think they are the only ones suffering from this addiction. They think others are normal while they are not.

4. Late marriages:

They are normally late marriages among people who are addicted to practicing masturbation for a long time. They find it difficult to morally get themselves equipped and ready not seeing much need in it. In some cases they are afraid of the responsibilities that come with marriage.

5. Unhealthy sexual fantasies:

Most people who are involved in masturbation cannot really do without fantasizing. This process of fantasizing could be as gory and pervasive in the mind as it could get. This becomes a problem in marriage when a married man is sleeping with his wife yet in his fantasies he is actually not seeing his wife but other women.

6. The flesh is insatiable:

People involved in masturbation sooner or later discover that the hunger for sexual satisfaction is insatiable. Hence the process of seeking for pleasure always lands such an individual in the most sordid practices of sexual pervasion including soliciting the services of prostitutes and escorts.

7. It brings sexual pervasion into marriage:

For a married man who was used to masturbating before marriage, the degradation could continue to the extent of him not being able to be sexually aroused by his spouse. In which case most men have to result to watching pornographic films and pictures while they make love to their wives otherwise they will not be able to get themselves to be aroused.

 8. Masturbation could lead to swinging in marriage:

The height of sexual pervasion that results from masturbation is what is called swinger parties when men who are no more aroused by their partners go to the extent of engaging in sex with other married couples. Even going to the extent of arranging orgy parties for it.

 9. Masturbation could lead to sexual fetishism:

A lot of young men go about stealing ladies underwear or getting close to women private belongings so as to use them as an act of sexual gratification. This is as a result of a long practice of self-gratification through masturbation that now looks for a more outward expression. This normally happens to men that lack the guts and boldness to approach a lady. It is a form of addiction.

10. Pornographic addiction:

Most people who practice masturbation end up becoming addicted to pornography because it provides secrecy and it allows for faster process of fantasy and ejaculation. The problem is that it becomes addictive sooner or later.

11. Masturbation leads to horrible sexual pervasion:

People who start out with masturbation have been found to be caught in rape, sex with animals, sadism, sadomasochism and other unthinkable pervasion. This is because the flesh can never be satisfied. The fantasy and the pursuit of sexual satisfaction is endless.

12. Masturbation leads to prostrate related diseases:

Most people who are actively involved in masturbation get complications in their later years, because of different complications they have with their health after the age of 40. It might not necessarily lead to prostate cancer for everybody, but it gives enough health concerns to be worried.

13. Selfishness and egocentrism in marriage:

A person that is used to satisfying himself sexually through masturbation continues to do that even after he is married. The wife will be constantly dissatisfied because the husband is not used to satisfying others but himself.

14. Premature ejaculation:

One of the main problems in marriage for people who have been involved in masturbation is premature ejaculation. Why that is a problem is that when a man suffers from premature ejaculation, the woman in most cases remains unsatisfied which could lead to complications in the marriage relationship.

15. Erectile dysfunction:

When someone engages in masturbation long enough, it gets to a point when you don’t really need erection to ejaculate and ones a man ejaculates he is satisfied but in marriage this becomes a problem, because erection is necessary to satisfy a partner sexually. It is also necessary for reproduction.

16. Feelings of Guilt and self-condemnation:

One of the most horrible consequences of masturbation is that most people who engage in it experience feelings of guilt and self-condemnation on a regular basis, which is also an indication to us that it is not natural to live a life of masturbation.

17. Depression and gloominess:

Masturbation often results in feelings of depression and gloominess. Most people who are involved in masturbation become moody and closed because they are afraid of sharing their experience with people because of the fear of condemnation and being misunderstood.

18. Inability to build healthy relationship with the opposite sex:

Most people who are involved in masturbation are so used to living within themselves, they reach agreements with themselves that they often don’t know how to build the complicated relationship with the opposite sex. In a relationship you need to constantly find out what the other person’s interest is. This could lead to men preferring not to marry or even to divorce after marriage.

19. Social and societal awkwardness:

Most such men feel awkward and unaccepted in the society and among their peers. They feel out of place if they don’t have a girlfriend or if they don’t marry at a certain age or they are uninterested in woman. On the other hand, they might feel they are under pressure from the society to get a wife even though they don’t have the interest. They might be pushed into marrying to make children even when they don’t have love for their partner. They have all sorts of awkwardness due to masturbation.

20 Lack of strong will:

The problem of masturbation is an affirmation of the fact that a man has stopped fighting. It is an acceptance of defeat. In most cases when you accept defeat in a particular area of your life, it could go a long way to affecting you in other areas. It now becomes easier to give up rather than to fight.


Ladies and gentlemen, allow me to state here that by this article I am by no means trying to condemn anyone. On the opposite, my intention is to give a helping hand to all men and women that are faced with this challenge. The reason I can authoritatively write about this subject is because I was a victim of sexual addiction especially masturbation. I can testify to the fact that God can give victory to anyone that so desires.

I have written a book that is available on amazon that is called Living Sexually Free for those that are interested, you can get yourself a copy. I also want to let you know that if you are reading this article, you should be on the lookout for another article which is going to be about concrete steps to overcome masturbation.

Meanwhile I will wish to encourage every man or family that is struggling with this habit to start by stopping to condemn yourself and each other. Make sure you shift your attention from the dominance of masturbation into more relevant topics of life like goals, purposes, missions, etc.

I also want to say that even when you are already free from masturbation, you should not assume that there would not be times when you will experience a low point. The most important thing to fight against becoming addicted. That is you don’t practice it on a permanent or constant basis. If it is only a matter of occasional failure, simply get up, dust yourself off and keep moving. Move on towards your goals, targets and destination in life. When you keep on fighting that way soon you will find out that you are experiencing more and more victory until you eventually discover that it is no more a question of worry or concern in your life.

Spend less time deliberating within yourself or fighting in your mind. Focus on your love for God and on building a closer relationship with your creator. It is my belief that love is stronger than any sin. If your love for God is stronger than for any habit, you are in a safe place.

In the next article I hope to be able to help you more concretely come out of this addiction.


By Pastor Sunday Adelaja

Ps Sunday Love you .. I remember sitting in a men's leaders meeting in Australia with Ps Jack Hayford sharing on this subject 20 years ago ... everyone who was there will still remember it. Ps Jack spoke about many "Christians" saying that it was like blowing your nose ... Ps Jack said "I have never known anyone having a glorious imagination whilst blowing their nose" GOD bless you
You are very correct sir. I was introduced to masturbation at a very tender age and I am still battling with it up till now. I am over forty years now with no desire to get married. I have no wife, no education, and no job. I have no interest in getting married, my greatest desire is to be a lawyer in life but I have lost focus. I always feel inferior when I’m with friends, why not? All my friends are married by now, they are graduates, and have children, good job and their own houses. Even with no education, I have dated graduates who are ready to get married to me, but I will be the one to end the relationship myself. I have lost focus of what I want to be in life, I weep every time I see myself where I am presently. To feed and pay my house rent of just N70, 000 per annum has been very hard for me. I am addicted to pornography, I feel guilty every time and I condemn myself every day. I am presently depressed, hopeless and visionless. I don’t even know where my life is heading to; I don’t know where to start from. But I am sure God is going to help me. When I was reading this article, I discover that everything you stated above described my personal life. And I am very sure that this article will go a long way to help me and several other people like me. I have lost my strong and passion to be somebody in life but I will be praying to God to help me as I work hard to stop masturbating. It is my prayer that God will continue to fill you with more inspiration, wisdom, knowledge and power. He will grant you long life and good health. You are indeed a blessing to this generation. As I round up, masturbation is a sin and I know very well. As you said, one have to lust after somebody before you can do it. I am repeating it again; this powerful article will go a long way to help those who desire to stop it in taking action to do so with prayer.
Mr Emmanuel Babalola, blessed be God who has made you to come across this life touching article, pls I want you to meet a good pastor in your area who can lead you to the steps of the Lord Jesus and nurture you to grow, I want to tell you that you can still be what you intended to be, all it takes is to be focus on the Lord who can give strength to do all good things that one desire, you can also reach me if you would not mind for prayers on 08022755347; God will lead you aright in Jesus' name. Shalom.
This is a wonderful write up, you hit all the points and I could remember when I was in the bondage before God released me. God bless you sir.
Pastor Steve pls Sir am surfer with masubation Sir av masured and av pray agaist it pls sir
This article is superb,i really love it sir.God bless you.This issue once happen to me sometimes but i used to rebuke it despite being a staunch follower of jesus christ,i bombed in into porn site to satisfy my sexual urge.Masturbation is a sin,we need to guard our heart against satanic sex video.
Thanks Pastor Steve, I’m going to get in touch with you sir. I meditated on that article yesterday; it runs on my brain throughout the night. Nothing as ever been direct to me like this. People know me as high flier, but I live like a vulture. But I’m sure that I’m going to fly again
thanks my mentor for this inspiring and anointed words. I had been addicted to this earlier in life but the power of Jesus i am FREE. Br. Emmanuel Babalol pls trust in God that you can still move on and fulfil purpose. God can do nothing for you without you engaging your mind. If you can reach me on 08160209243.
Sir, thanks for this great information. Please Sir, can I share it on my facebook page. Thanks.
Sir, thanks for this great information that delivers and transforms. Please Sir, can I post is on my facebook page.
Of course that is why it's written so it could be shared and spread around. Please do!!!
thanks so much am a victim pray for me
God bless u sir for dis enlightening piece
God bless you sir. I am short of words
With this article, freedom has come the way of many. Even the writer may not know it. This is the hand of God, not man.
This article is sound and deep in Truth. More Grace Sir. I only want to point out that it is not only men that Struggle with this habit. Women as well as men struggle with Masturbation. Thanks for letting out the truth that so many ministers of God run away from.
I thank GOD for this inspirational write-up, GOD bless you sir
It's very true! Ladies also must be informed about the fact! Masturbating involves women also! Glory to God to break this bondage!
Hi mates, how is everything, and what you desire to say on the topic of this paragraph, in my view its truly amazing for me.
Very inspiring. I have been trying to send it to my email so I can resend to my 3 teenage boys but it will not go. They too have tried but it would not. Many of our youths in the church needs to hear this. We cant just be preaching against fornication to the without giving the solutions to masturbation. Women have serious issues concerning this as well.
Hello, please send your email address to this address and we will help you out- Thank you and god bless
Timely words. God bless you sir
I have had to counsel many Husbands who are being deprived at home sexually by their wives often for no reason at all ( I mean no quarrels etc) and end up in Masturbation while I have been privy to a Leaders who actually encouraged this Associate who was struggling at home as a remedy. Often many Christians challenged by erotic feelings for the opposite sex believe this is a way out so they don't engage in fornication or Adultery! How does one address this issue?
hello David, thank you for your question. This piece might help you understand better what to do. Blessings.
Have read the articles but doesn't answer the question why Christians and especially leaders justify this sinful act
What a message of deliverance to the body of Christ. I am richly blessed sir. I Celebrate the grace of God on your life Sir.
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In most cases, wet dreams in men is often accompanied by by an exposure to a female figure during the dreams. Does this qualify it to be a form of adultery?
No it doesn't. As long as you control what you expose yourself to while you are awake, things in your dream will reflect that as well. What happens outside your active conscious state cannot be considered as sin. furthermore, If you want your dreams to change, change the information you take in and think about.
good eveninq i would want to thank God for me cominq across dis writeup pls pastor i need to contact u i need help in stopinq dis mastubation my email from ghana
A reply has been sent to your email. Blessings!
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Thank God for pastors like you sir. This message has so addressed my issue. I bless God for coming across this article.
Thanks for this article. This is exactly what I need now
Precisely at age 11, when I was leaving primary 6; I was introduced to masturbation by a friend. At this time I was sent to my uncle's place for correction after being disobedient to my aunt who came to stay with us. While he introduced me to this evil act, he also led me to viewing naked videos with acts of sex. I continued in this till I got to university. It was then I met Christ after a terrible experience of hearing voices. By this time I was already 23. God has been faithful to me. I have been resisting this evil till date. I am already 41 without the urge for it. Anyone who has been involved in this can be free. Jesus said if you want to be free then you will be. God bless you for this article sir. It is going to lead many to their desired freedom in Jesus name. Amen.

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