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THE DAMAGING EFFECTS OF RELIGION AND HOW TO OVERCOME IT {PART 7}

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PATH AND PRINCIPLES TO RECOVERY FROM RELIGIOUS ABUSE

If you have been a victim of church abuse, I want you to imagine Jesus standing in front of you. Just imagine Jesus standing there. And in your spirit man, reach out to him and just try to touch him. Try to see his hands that were nailed, reach out to that wound in his hands and let the wounds of his hands heal you. Or you could imagine Jesus’s feet with blood. Just try to imagine and reach out to him by faith.



Do not imagine a face, so you do not see the ones you have seen in movies. Allow your spirit to understand that the father loves us so much as to send his only begotten son (John 3:16). Just touch the Lord Jesus. He is the only one who will be able to understand you and your wounds. Nobody will ever be able to understand how wounded you are. Allow Jesus to heal you and deliver you right now.

Some of you just need to have His presence. Believe him, and he will gain entrance into you. He loves you more than you can imagine. He does not want you hurting, give him the chance to bring peace into your life. He cares.

PRINCIPLES TO RECOVERY

1. The First Principle You Want To Pay Attention To Is To Give Yourself Permission To Grieve.

If you don’t give yourself permission to grieve what will happen is that you will be living in denial. That is the reason God created tear glands and made us emotional beings.  Crying is a therapeutic process towards gaining healing.  Hence, you must allow the natural process to take its toll if you are hoping for some healing. If you will not allow yourself to grieve, it will turn you to an angry and a depressed fellow. Do not try to be strong unnecessarily. Understand that you have been hurt and cry over it.

If you have gone through an abuse and you are feeling the pain, feel it but follow through. The moment you follow through; you will be free. Because if you are not free from the hurt, I am telling you, you are in bigger bondage. Though you are not seeing the people that hurt you in time past, but what they have done has formed a slave chain around your neck. Therefore, feel the pain and talk to people. In fact, adopt this message when you talk to anyone experiencing things like this.

Recommend this article and do well to get teachings that will help you. I have written several books on this subject as well that will help you to recover. Get the necessary materials for your own self-help.

2. The Second Principle Of Healing Is To Take Time Away From Congregational Life If Necessary.

In most cases, you need to leave that church. You need to leave the environment where that pain or that injury had been inflicted on you; you might need to leave that place and just take a break. A lot of people who have been abused, especially in our churches in Africa continue to fellowship with the same congregation and cases of abuses are repeated.

So, for you to stop experiencing the shame and not to re-open your wound, you need to leave the environment. For some people who feel that it might be difficult to leave abusive churches because they play the kind of African music, they want to listen and dance to.  Guess what, we are saved to build a relationship with God and be an instrument of God’s kingdom in our world, reconciling all men to Christ.

This is what we must learn. Ask yourself questions like this: what does God want me to do? God wants to build a relationship with his children and wants them seeing him as he sees them. Hence, you need to join like minds; Christian groups who preach the word of God as it is, not adding or deducting from it; Christian groups who will edify you and not abuse you. Sometimes that group will be in your home, where you have invited friends and neighbors to study with you.



Some people go to church because they want a social life. It’s sometimes not because they want to listen to the pastor. Because Africans unlike natives of European countries, do not have aunts, uncles and other relatives to visit, they feel they should attend church for this purpose. Guess what, as we have said, this will only make you susceptible to abusive leaders.

3. The Next Principle To Recovery Is Creating Solitude.

In Mark 1:35, look at Jesus, ‘now in the morning, having risen a long while before daylight, he went out and departed into a solitary place and there he prayed’.

Jesus loved communicating with the Father. Remember when he prayed forty days and forty nights. Also, remember at Gethsemane when he left his disciples so he could pray. At the time he finished his prayer, he saw his disciples sleeping and asked them if they could not keep watch with him. After addressing them this way, he still went up again to pray.

We must live like Jesus not because of what we will get but because this is the life we are called into. Therefore, like Jesus, we must learn to create solitude and commune with the father. It is only in this manner that we can learn the way of the father. When we create time for personal study and prayer, we will learn of Christ, and we will be able to identify errors when we see them. And who says there are no blessings for us in the place of prayer and study?

Remember that the effectual fervent prayer of the righteous makes tremendous power available.

This is how far we can go with the article. I hope you have been greatly blessed. To get the other Principles of Recovery please get the book.

Excerpts from the Book “Damaged By religion, Path To Healing”. #DSABOOKS

This book can be found on dsabooksplanet.com and Amazon.com

 

FOR   THE   LOVE   OF   GOD,   CHURCH   AND   NATION

By Pastor Sunday Adelaja.



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